My Parenting Manifesto

You know I am a big fan of clarity.  It’s one of the things every family needs in order to thrive.  Clarity is about knowing who you are as a family, an individual, and as a parent.  It’s about knowing what you stand for and what’s important.

parenting manifesto

So when I read Brene Brown’s book, Daring Greatly, I knew I had to share it with you.  Her parenting manifesto is a perfect tool to help us get clarity around our parenting and get us back on track when we feel the pressure and stress of raising our children in a world which insists on measuring self-worth by how many things we have and the size and number of accomplishments.

Specifically this is what she had to say in Daring Greatly:

“I wrote the following parenting manifesto because I need it.  Steve and I need it.  Putting down the measuring stick in a culture that uses acquisitions and accomplishments to assess worth is not easy.  I use the manifesto as a touchstone, a prayer, and a meditation when I’m wrestling with vulnerability or when I’ve got that “never enough” fear.  It reminds me of the finding that changed and probably saved my life: Who we are and how we engage with the world are much stronger predictors of how our children will do than what we know about parenting. “

So I wrote my own parenting manifesto and you can read it here.

And I want you to write your own.  Write it for you.  Write it for your children.

Here are some tips to get you started.

  1. Writing your manifesto will require honesty and vulnerability, so you have to be in the right place both mentally and physically to do this.
  2. At first just write what is in your heart and on your mind. Don’t censor yourself or stop to edit.  Just write.  You can go back later and clean it up.
  3. Make it your own and use your own words and your own language.
  4. Make it about what you truly believe and want, not what you think the world wants or expects.

And the most important tip is to USE IT.  Once you’ve got it done, use it when you are feeling afraid, pressured, or to get you back on track when you have made mistakes.  Have a copy with you on your phone, computer, refrigerator, and beside your bed.

Resources to Help

Brene Brown’s Parenting Manifesto – written and video

Daring Greatly

Brene Brown discussing Daring Greatly on Oprah